Hi, I’m Angie Enger.
Angie Enger, MA, is a Self-Intimacy and Sex Coach specializing in helping women and femmes navigate midlife desire, body comfort, and sexual reclamation. Based in Maplewood, New Jersey, she combines a Master’s in Community Counseling with a systems-based approach to shame-free pleasure.
She guides individuals to confidently explore their desires, navigate complex emotions, and forge deeper connections with themselves and their partners. Clients praise her ability to create a shame-free space for exploration, providing practical tools and profound insights that lead to greater fulfillment and empowered self-expression.
INFJ, 2w3, Cancer Sun/Virgo Moon/Taurus Rising
Education and Certification
Angie graduated with a Masters of Arts in Community Counseling in 2009 from the University of Minnesota. She completed an independent study with Dr. Eli Coleman at the Eli Coleman Institute for Sexual and Gender Health (Formerly the Center for Human Sexuality) and a Practicum at the The Gender and Sexuality Center for Queer and Trans Life (formerly the GLBTA Programs Office). Angie has additional experience in the sexuality and wellness space as a Sex Educator at the Annex Teen Clinic.
Angie is a Certified Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach via The Embody Lab.
Community Alliance
I am LGBTQ+ and BDSM/kink-positive, sex-worker allied, and affirm ENM/Polyamorous relationship structures.
Professional Background
In 2023, Angie created Oh What Beauty, a pleasure and intimacy shop focused on curating toys and tools with quality, innovative design and aesthetics in mind, all from women, Queer and BIPOC-owned business. Angie also developed a line of natural silk gentle restraints to encourage pleasure seekers to experiment with bondage and restraint in a way that was inclusive, accessible and decadent.
What Clients Are Saying: The Path to Reconnection
When we work together, the goal is more than just "fixing" a symptom—it is about reclaiming your sovereignty and ease within your own skin. Here is how that transformation feels for the women I support:
From Relationship Stress to Personal Confidence
"I thought I needed help to improve intimacy in my relationship and we discovered right away that the actual work revolved around my relationship with pleasure and confidence in general... Her help has fundamentally changed the way I approach my life." — Liz T.
Navigating Shame with Body Reconnection
"I was very appreciative of how careful she was with my shame. Once we found a safe place to land, she equipped me with a simple yet effective tool to reconnect with my body. She understands very well what a delicate system our sexuality is." — Amy N.
A Deeper Layer Beyond Traditional Therapy
"As someone who has done a lot of self-work and therapy, my session with Angie helped fill in gaps I didn't even know existed. She made me feel understood and gave wonderful direction I have taken deeply to heart." — Kate S.
My Coaching Philosophy and Values
I offer empathic and personalized coaching to individuals seeking transformation. My unique coaching framework guides you to achieve what truly matters to you. My mindset-driven, systems-approach provides you with tools and resources that set you up to adapt to whatever circumstances come your way.
Sexual wellness does not exist in a vacuum; it is shaped by our identities, our communities, and our histories. My practice is rooted in radical inclusivity and the belief that every person deserves a pleasure-informed life, free from judgment.
LGBTQ+ Affirming & Gender-Expansive: I provide a celebratory space for all sexual orientations and gender identities. Your identity is a source of wisdom, not a hurdle to overcome.
Kink & BDSM Positive: I am a kink-aware professional. Whether you are exploring power dynamics or alternative play, I offer a non-pathologizing space to integrate these desires into your self-intimacy.
ENM & Polyamory Allied: I support individuals navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy and polyamorous relationship structures, focusing on communication, boundaries, and autonomy.
Trauma-Informed & Shame-Resilient: Our sexualities are delicate systems. My approach is "slow and steady," prioritizing your felt sense of safety and agency above all else.
Podcast Appearances
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Episode 93. Beyond the Talk: Everyday Conversations About Sex, Bodies & Boundaries with Angie Enger
f you grew up in the 80s or 90s, you probably remember “the talk”, one awkward, fluorescent-lit conversation at school or a quick birds-and-bees download from your parents. But as parents today, we know it doesn’t work like that anymore. In this episode of AND/BOTH, I sit down with returning guest Angie Enger, a sex and self-intimacy coach, parent, and former teen clinic sex ed teacher, to talk about what it really looks like to have ongoing conversations with our kids about sex, consent, bodies, and relationships.
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Hot take: there’s nothing wrong with your desire—it just has a flavor, babe. Join Aimee and Angie Enger as they spill the tea on spontaneous vs. responsive desire, why ‘low libido’ is a total myth, and how to turn frustration into exploration. It’s time to stop feeling broken and start owning your unique, sexy blueprint.
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In this episode of 'Good Ideas and Bad Decisions,' hosts Kat and Ellen are joined by Angie Enger, a sex and self-intimacy coach who shares her unique journey to becoming a coach and the importance of reclaiming pleasure in one's life. Angie dives deep into topics of responsive desire, the significance of individual self-intimacy, and practical tips for couples struggling with connection. Kat and Ellen also discuss the lack of cyclical care for women, the power of small pleasures, and creating intentional moments of connection. This insightful conversation is packed with valuable insights and practical advice for anyone looking to improve their intimate relationships and overall well-being.
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Episode 82. Breaking the Silence: Moms, Marriage & Sexual Intimacy with Angie Enger
In this candid and eye-opening conversation, Ashley welcomes Angie Anger, a self intimacy and sex coach, to the And Both Podcast. Angie shares her non-linear journey from counseling and corporate marketing to becoming a coach who helps women and femmes reconnect with their bodies, pleasure, and self-worth—especially through the lens of motherhood and long-term partnership. With empathy, humor, and a refreshing dose of honesty, they discuss desire types, communication barriers, emotional labor, and how parenthood reshapes intimacy. Angie reminds us: you’re not broken, you’re just human.
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FAQs
What is a Self-Intimacy Coach?
A self-intimacy coach helps individuals reconnect with their own desires and bodies to build a foundation for external pleasure.
What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
Both coaches and therapists are wonderful and can help you live a better life. Therapists generally focus on your entire life, unpacking your past and anticipating your future. Coaches help you navigate a specific realm and reach specific goals.
What makes Angie unique?
Angie is a deeply empathic pragmatist. She believes that everyone deserves pleasure and everyone can access body comfort. She believes self-intimacy is the key to it all. Despite having Masters of Arts in Counseling from the University of Minnesota, Angie spent 15 years doing marketing for beloved brands before realized she had been coaching all along.
Is This the Right Time for You?
You don’t need to have a "crisis" to seek support. Coaching is for any woman or femme ready to move from a state of surviving to a state of sensing.
You might be ready for a session if:
The "Shoulds" are winning: You feel like you should want sex, but the actual desire feels far away or like just another chore on your to-do list.
Your body feels like a stranger: Midlife or perimenopause has changed how you feel physically, and you’re looking for a way to feel "at home" in your skin again.
You're curious about your own pleasure: You want to explore what actually feels good to you, independent of a partner’s needs or societal expectations.
You've done the "talk therapy", listened to every podcast and read every book, but feel stuck: You understand your history intellectually, but your body hasn't quite received the message yet.
You're ready for a shame-free space: You have questions about desire, kink, or intimacy that you haven't felt safe asking anywhere else.
Ready to Reconnect?
The journey back to yourself doesn’t have to be a solo trek. Whether you are navigating the shifts of midlife, unraveling layers of shame, or simply curious about what pleasure could feel like on your own terms, I am here to hold the map while you lead the way.
Let's Start with a Conversation
The best way to see if my approach resonates with you is through a no-pressure Free Consultation. We’ll spend 30 minutes discussing your goals, answering your questions, and seeing how we can best support your path to self-intimacy.
The spark is still there—sometimes it’s just waiting for the right environment to catch fire. Let’s create that space together.