Hi, I’m Angie Enger.
I'm an Intimacy and Pleasure Coach based in Maplewood, NJ. I help women come home to themselves so that everything else gets better, including sex. I work with women who are smart, self-aware, and have usually already done the therapy, but their body hasn't gotten the message yet. That's the part we do together.
INFJ, 2w3, Cancer Sun/Virgo Moon/Taurus Rising
A little more about me.
I have an MA in Community Counseling from the University of Minnesota, where I also completed an independent study with Dr. Eli Coleman at the Institute for Sexual and Gender Health and a practicum at what is now the Gender and Sexuality Center for Queer and Trans Life. Before that I spent time as a sex educator at the Annex Teen Clinic, which is where I first understood that talking honestly about bodies and desire changes people's lives.
I am also a Certified Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach through The Embody Lab.
Before coaching, I spent 15 years in marketing for brands I actually loved. I was good at it, but I kept finding myself in conversations that had nothing to do with campaign strategy and everything to do with helping people figure out what they actually wanted. Eventually I stopped ignoring the pattern.
I live in Maplewood with my family. I visit graveyards for fun, make a mean pasta alla vodka, and believe deeply that small change is big change.
Who I work with.
I work with women and femmes at any stage — postpartum, perimenopause, mid-relationship, newly single, somewhere in between. My practice is LGBTQ+ affirming, kink-aware, and ENM-positive. Whoever you are and however you love, you belong here.
I am not your therapist. A lot of my clients already have one, and we work well in parallel. What I do is different — we're not unpacking the past, we're building something new. If you've ever said "I understand why I am the way I am, I just don't know how to change it," that's usually where we start.
What clients have found.
When we work together, the goal is more than just "fixing" a symptom—it is about reclaiming your sovereignty and ease within your own skin. Here is how that transformation feels for the women I support:
From Relationship Stress to Personal Confidence
"I thought I needed help to improve intimacy in my relationship and we discovered right away that the actual work revolved around my relationship with pleasure and confidence in general... Her help has fundamentally changed the way I approach my life." — Liz T.
Navigating Shame By Reconnecting With Your Body
"I was very appreciative of how careful she was with my shame. Once we found a safe place to land, she equipped me with a simple yet effective tool to reconnect with my body. She understands very well what a delicate system our sexuality is." — Amy N.
Deepening beyond Traditional Therapy
"As someone who has done a lot of self-work and therapy, my session with Angie helped fill in gaps I didn't even know existed. She made me feel understood and gave wonderful direction I have taken deeply to heart." — Kate S.
Is this right for you?
You don't need to be in crisis to start. You just need to be curious enough to show up.
You might be ready if you've done the therapy, listened to all the podcasts, and read all the books — but your body still hasn't gotten the message.
Or if sex feels like one more thing on the list rather than something that belongs to you.
Or if you can't quite remember the last time you felt genuinely at home in your own skin.
Or if you have questions about desire, kink, or intimacy that you've never felt safe asking out loud.
You don't have to have it all figured out to start. You just have to be a little curious.
Podcast Appearances
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Coziness isn't always external. Sex & Self-Intimacy Coach Angie Enger helps listeners cultivate an inner hyggekrog--cozy nook--to feel safe, comfortable and secure in their own sexual bodies.
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Episode 93. Beyond the Talk: Everyday Conversations About Sex, Bodies & Boundaries with Angie Enger
f you grew up in the 80s or 90s, you probably remember “the talk”, one awkward, fluorescent-lit conversation at school or a quick birds-and-bees download from your parents. But as parents today, we know it doesn’t work like that anymore. In this episode of AND/BOTH, I sit down with returning guest Angie Enger, a sex and self-intimacy coach, parent, and former teen clinic sex ed teacher, to talk about what it really looks like to have ongoing conversations with our kids about sex, consent, bodies, and relationships.
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Hot take: there’s nothing wrong with your desire—it just has a flavor, babe. Join Aimee and Angie Enger as they spill the tea on spontaneous vs. responsive desire, why ‘low libido’ is a total myth, and how to turn frustration into exploration. It’s time to stop feeling broken and start owning your unique, sexy blueprint.
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In this episode of 'Good Ideas and Bad Decisions,' hosts Kat and Ellen are joined by Angie Enger, a sex and self-intimacy coach who shares her unique journey to becoming a coach and the importance of reclaiming pleasure in one's life. Angie dives deep into topics of responsive desire, the significance of individual self-intimacy, and practical tips for couples struggling with connection. Kat and Ellen also discuss the lack of cyclical care for women, the power of small pleasures, and creating intentional moments of connection. This insightful conversation is packed with valuable insights and practical advice for anyone looking to improve their intimate relationships and overall well-being.
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Episode 82. Breaking the Silence: Moms, Marriage & Sexual Intimacy with Angie Enger
In this candid and eye-opening conversation, Ashley welcomes Angie Anger, a self intimacy and sex coach, to the And Both Podcast. Angie shares her non-linear journey from counseling and corporate marketing to becoming a coach who helps women and femmes reconnect with their bodies, pleasure, and self-worth—especially through the lens of motherhood and long-term partnership. With empathy, humor, and a refreshing dose of honesty, they discuss desire types, communication barriers, emotional labor, and how parenthood reshapes intimacy. Angie reminds us: you’re not broken, you’re just human.
What I believe.
Pleasure is not a reward for getting everything else right first. It's not something you earn after the kids are older, the relationship is better, or life calms down. It's available now, in the body you have, in the life you're actually living.
Sexual wellness doesn't exist in a vacuum. It's shaped by who you are, where you came from, and what the world has told you about yourself along the way. I take all of that seriously.
I work from a place of radical inclusivity, not as a talking point but as a genuine belief that every person deserves a pleasure-informed life free from judgment. That means my practice is fully affirming of all sexual orientations and gender identities. It means I'm kink-aware and non-pathologizing about power dynamics and alternative play. It means I support people navigating ENM and polyamorous relationship structures with the same care I bring to everything else.
My approach is trauma-informed and shame-resilient. Sexuality is a delicate system and I treat it that way. We go slow. We go at your pace. Safety and agency come before everything else.
Organizations I support with my time, resources, and/or money.
FAQs
What is an Intimacy and Pleasure Coach?
An intimacy and pleasure coach helps women reconnect with their own desires and bodies — building a foundation for everything else to get better, including sex.
What is the difference between coaching and therapy?
Therapists generally focus on your whole life, unpacking your past and working through what's holding you back. Coaching is more specific and more forward-facing. A lot of my clients see a therapist and work with me at the same time. The two complement each other well.
What makes Angie unique?
Most intimacy coaching focuses outward, on the relationship, the partner, the performance. My work starts with you. Not as a stepping stone to something else, but as the destination. I believe the key to a fulfilling life, including a fulfilling sex life, is remembering who you are. Not who you were before everything got complicated, but who you actually are right now, underneath all the noise. That's the work. Everything else follows from there.
Ready to feel like yourself again?
The first step is a 20-minute fit call — free, private, and completely without pressure. We talk about what's going on, what you actually want, and whether I'm the right person to help. If I'm not, I'll tell you honestly and point you somewhere better.